What sometimes cripples a person ability to make decisions often results from being afraid of being criticized. The secret to overcoming your fear of making choices is to realize that everyone’s life is full of risks. Not making choices carries an even greater risk . . . losing control of your life. Like any other skill, your ability to make good and wise decisions improves with practice. You learn from the pain of your poor decisions how to make better ones. There is a constant spiritual warfare being waged “between your ears” as Satan tries to distract you from making good decisions. Ever since Adam and Eve, people have tried to make others responsible for their bad choices . . . tried to put the blame on others. Accepting the responsibility of your poor choices and their consequences is the only way a person can grow.
It would be wonderful if we always knew when we were making the right life-changing, decisions. Unfortunately, that isn’t always true, but if our hearts are right with God, He can take even the unwise choices and mercifully turn them into something good. “work together for good” (Romans 8:28).
Choices and their Consequences
People are defined by the choices they make and the consequences of those choices. We are free to make choices, but we are not free to alter the consequences. Whenever the Bible talks about people and their choices, the Holy Spirit faithfully shares with us the negative and positive consequences of their choices. For example, Adam and Eve chose to disobey God, they were banished from the Garden of Eden forever (Genesis 3:17-24). Noah chose to obey God; he and his family were saved during the flood (Genesis 6:).
And being indecisive can have its tragic consequences as well. Look at the man who received one talent in Jesus’ Parable of the Talents. He became frightened that he might lose the one talent he had, so he dug a hole in the ground and hid it. For not investing it wisely he was severely punished (see Matthew 25:14-30).